I hope everyone has had an amazing start to the year so far. I still can’t believe that it is 2018, I feel as though the years go by faster and faster! Although I am not complaining, I love it when my life is so full and there is always excitement around the next corner. I know that this year is going to be the best one yet.. I can just feel it in every inch of my Being. I want you all to know that it is going to be such a beautiful year, and wherever you are in your life you need to believe it as well!
I am writing this post because last year I struggled with not feeling good enough. We all have that voice in the back of our head that tells us negative stuff that is NOT true, it may be loud for some people or quiet for others, but I can guarantee that everybody has to deal with it.
I have had this voice all through my life, however I only became conscious of it last year. I started to hear the voice for what it was and see the impact it was having on my life. I could see the thoughts turning into words and actions and see that they were not my own and were causing problems for me. I think awareness is so important and this is the first hurdle. With this awareness I have observed the voice telling me I am not good enough and how it is always linked to any unhappiness I feel. The voice has not gone away but with consciousness I am able to bring light onto it and slowly it is fading.
Over Christmas the voice became especially loud, I don’t know why. I could see what thoughts it was causing me to have and how untrue these thoughts were, but it was hard not to believe them. It took me a few weeks but I believe I have finally quietened this voice now and I want to share with you my ways for dealing with it.
My first tip is to talk to other people. Share your thoughts with them and this will bring a different perspective into your thoughts. You may be able to see how some of those thoughts are not true, and you can talk them through with others. I also find that by sharing my thoughts sometimes I am able to let them go so they don’t have such a big control over me any more.
If you do not want to talk about your thoughts, then writing them down is so helpful. When I write my thoughts down I am able to see how ridiculous they are and I know when that voice has surfaced. By the end of my writing the thoughts always disappear and I feel so much better.
My third tip is GET PRESENT. The moment I am present, the moment I am happy again. I probably talk extensively about this but it is so so true. Allow yourself to be fully immersed in the present moment and your thoughts will naturally quieten. Then without those thoughts and that voice saying you are not good enough, you can be happy. All you have to do is let go of the thoughts first, and this is only done by being present.
Do something that makes you feel good! When my voice in my head tells me that I am not good enough, I do something which makes me feel good and this helps to reverse the voice. Regardless of whether you believe you are good enough or not, I still think we should be doing things we love everyday because that should be an integral part of our lives!
My final tip for dealing with that voice in your head is to pick a different soundtrack. I have found this to be really helpful when all else fails. I just pick a mantra which is completely the opposite to what the voice is telling me and I say it even louder. I am worthy has become my mantra recently and it really transforms my life. I think it so loud until it drowns out anything else and all I can hear and think is this one line.. I am good enough, I am worthy.. Give it a go and you will see for yourself how powerful it is!
So I hope this has been helpful to anyone out there who might be dealing with negative thoughts right now. Just know that you aren’t alone and we all have these thoughts we have to deal with. But instead of giving them energy and life, try to put your attention on something else until the thoughts fade away. I know it isn’t always easy, but it is worth the effort because you brighten your life so much simply by changing your thoughts. So many of us are our own worst enemy, and if we could change that around then we really would be able to accomplish anything in life.
My favourite books to help transform your thinking:
The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle
A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle
Stillness Speaks – Eckhart Tolle
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – Deepak Chopra
Being of Power – Baron Baptiste