I have just recently realised that everything that I didn’t want to be when I was younger, I have turned into that now.. It is like a weird joke but I love it.
For example, dropping out of uni. I used to be so closed minded and judgemental about people who dropped out of university and I always said that I would never ever do it no matter the circumstances, but look at me now. My old self would cringe! I have dropped out of university and I am so so grateful that I have. That step took a massive shift in my brain and it did take me time to drop all of my judgements, but the moment I did I became free. I became free to live my own life.
I also used to be really really obsessed with my weight, to the point that it became a disease and I had to see doctors about it every week. It ruined my life for 5 years when I was at school, but still I was judgmental about myself and others. I had this fixed impression of how a person should look and if I didn’t live up to that I put myself down. In this period of my life I was absolutely terrified of gaining weight, I thought that if I ever did then I could never be happy. Now, 5 years on, I have gained weight and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. It has required me to let go of ‘ideas’ I hold on too, but again that has been so freeing. This has taught me that sometimes what our brain tells us isn’t always right.
What I am trying to say with these examples, is that we might form very solid impressions of ourselves, and when we do that we end up becoming judgemental of others. Having a cemented idea that you are not willing to change makes you closed minded, you may think you know now however in the future you may change your mind.
Attaching our identity to something external is dangerous. If we loose that thing we feel as though we loose ourselves. Stop looking for yourself in external things, such as your appearance or career, look for yourself within and you will be happy.
Always remember that it is ok to change your mind. It is ok to like something one day and hate it the next. As human beings we are ever evolving, ever growing and everyday we are going to be different to the day before. This is good! It is what makes life interesting. If you stayed the same the whole way through your life it would be very very dull.
So I am almost writing this as a reminder to myself to stay open minded and not become judgemental about anything in life! Those things that I think I would never want to happen to me, end up happening, so it is better to practice non-judgement rather than criticising everything that is happening.
Change can be terrifying, but it is good. Resisting a change will make it much much harder. Allow change to happen naturally and go with the flow of life.
Life is so much better when you don’t judge. It is so much easier. Why do we need fixed impressions? They don’t serve us.
From now on I won’t be judging any books by their cover and I will be keeping an open mind for my life. Anything can happen, anything at all, and this is exciting! I love it! I am in love with the uncertainty of life now, it fuels me! But that means that I must keep an open mind to all the possibilities available in every moment…
Namaste and shanti (peace)
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